18th May – 24th May 2015 [Hum Tum aur Kamra]

 

We started the week with round of hospital, this trend of rounds continued for next 10 days. MRI was done at Inamdhar Hospital to confirm that there is need for surgery. Dr Jindal glanced at report, waved his figure and said, ‘Get it operated. You are in earth quick area of Nepal, you home is damaged, so be prepared.’ Now, if doctors says such things you get scared. Few years back, Mummy was operated by Dr Jindal for her hand problem. Savita recommended only two options, one Dr Jindal and other Dr Sancheti. Kamal Khetan vouched for his ethics and skill.   And finally what helped in making the correct decision was when doctor said, ‘We will operate only if she gets medically fit. We need two days at least to prepare her.’

On day one, she was given 2 blood bottles and 3 plasma bottles to prep her up. Many reports were taken and finally decided to operate her.

The Ratna Memorial Hospital has open door policy. Means, any time one can visit patient, can stay as long as you want. This is very much Indianish Hopital. Except for ICU, one can have full freedom. Yes, if one converts room into party hall, security steps in. How much this was helpful? Only one can make judgment but cannot prove this.

On Friday Bindiya got operated. Her hip joint was replaced by steel implant. We all waited out at OT. Akshay – Kashyap – Muskan and myself. Dhwani was barred from visiting hospital and Mummy was keeping company with her. She was sent in operation theater at 1.0 clock and was out by 4.30. And first one to visit her was Ashok and Gullu who had just reached hospital from Mumbai. She looked relaxed and without pain.

How much visitors help in getting patient in positive frame of mind? No way to gauge that.

Well, I can say this for myself, it was great relief and positive factor for myself at least. Next day, Mona – Meena – Prakash – Bhabhi all visited, kept her company for few hours and made tense atmosphere more cordial, homely and pleasant. Special thanks to Mona for taking place of mother and for many more things. Pushpa Mami and Bal from Hydrabad - Manu - Reshma also made late night visit. Pushpa is on vacation trip to Mahableshwar and Goa, with her 'Maika Ladies'. Bal had come just to give her company till Puna. In her usual style and form, our Mami fired few crackers and left.

 

First Attempt at Standing

On 24th Sunday, constant flow of visitors kept mind occupied with good thoughts. In fixed time slot of visiting hours, most visitors are kept at hi-hello level as they have vacate seat for next arrival, but here, visitors start from morning and continue till evening. My cousins kept visiting in rolling order. One visit was followed by other with gap of ½ hour or so. Amar – Ravi – Savi – Sanjay all came with better half’s and gossiped. By evening it was time for Bindiya’s Guddu and Muskan, Avi and his gang. Her recovery journey has started earnestly. I am sure, Muskan's seva, and other family members concern and care will make her fit and fine in no time, ready to act Grand Ma role very soon.

After operation it was a kind of routine recovery stay. Lali will drop in, or Sharat will come in and say hi. Kashyap kept giving special appearances. Staff brought morning nasta and some office gossip. Whereas Akshay took leave from Mumbai and kept visiting. Dhwani’s mother and Phuie also made a one day trip. Soon I was able right frame of mind and made some comments as usual Bindiya thinks this is pure harassment from my part. She has stopped even saying 'Hawa Khao'.

 

Among my few comments I liked following comment and am waiting for response.

"HUM TUM EK KAMRE MEIN BUND HOON, AUR CHABI KHO JAI?"    

 

by P G Dodeja

11th May – 17th May 2015 [Humpty Dumpty had a great fall]

 

Bindiya as she gets ready for Operation

Friday: It is fare morning, soon going to turn into nightmare morning. The heat was fare enough, that is, not unbearably hot, but hot enough to give feeling of summer. Morning was warm, but sunlight put the dash of heavy summer in our living room. Dhwani’s progress towards motherhood is satisfactory, she is fully enjoying this phase and we all are anxiously waiting for news. In short things were moving at fairly good pace, in desired direction. But then when is life so predictable?

Today Mummy and Kashyap are sitting and chatting on one sofa. Nowadays he is preparing to be a good father, hence no late nights, getting up early in morning etc. Bindiya in her standard swinging style, moving gracefully and slowly came out of her room at one end of living room and moved towards her day time sofa. Kashyap asked her to join them, she corrected her direction by taking two steps in other sofa’s direction and sat next to Kashyap. Bindiya has capacity to sit straight for 10 – 15 minutes only, so after few minutes she stood up to return to sofa just few paces away and lie down. From kitchen entrance I saw this scene taking place in fraction of second.

She took one step forward, her balance swayed a bit, as usual nothing alarming. To correct her balance, she tried to take support of chair on her right side, which was unfortunately six inches away from her reach. Her feet folded, she crashed down on her left side, falling on her hip bone, hitting her head gently on floor as Kashyap’s instinct took over and he was beside her, just in nano second as she touched floor. In editing language it appeared as fast cut, one frame she was down and second frame Kashyap was next to her. It took me one step to reach her. She was bleeding from her head wound.

Immediate Kashyap lifted her, made she lie down on sofa. Ice was applied on head to stop bleeding. I checked her for any other damage. She was not in pain so with relief I said, “She is Ok, no fracture.” How wrong I was. No pain is not a correct indicator.

Just to set aside any nagging worry about her fracture, we called portable fracture machine. The X ray guy gave first inclination of coming challenge. “I am not sure, but there seems to be hair thin line fracture. You will need MRI to confirm it.” This statement started our uphill task of bring Bindiya back to her feet. In short, after consulting three surgeons, who said, ‘Surgery is necessary, but in her case not advisable. But Dr Punkaj Jindal, said you will not be able to take care for 2 months without damaging her fractured leg and pushing yourself for major - risky emergency operation. So take chance and get her operated. He is very blunt, shoots like gun, straight.

This week ended with this bleak – most tension filled episode to another more depressing, tension filled week. Something, which was unavoidable, but filled with minefields of decision making from many point of views.

 

by P G Dodeja

2nd Nov 2014 – 8th Nov 2014 [Anniversary week]

 

Thought of the week: Fundamentally, we all want fulfillment. Money, Power, Position, Pleasure are only the means for fulfillment. Problems start when these means become more important than fundamental objective.

Mon: Tulsi Vivah: I was invited to the wedding of Tulsi. No, she is not a heroine of any TV serial, made by Balaji. I am speaking about ‘Tulsi’ Plant in Kashyap’s Balcony! We Indians have many varying customs and rituals, but this takes the cake. A plant’s wedding that also without her ‘Dulha’.  When I asked Muskan, ‘Where is Dulha?’ she had no reply, she even was unaware of who is her Dulha. I asked her one more question, What is funda behind this? A big smile and fluttering of eye lashes was her reply.

Mummy also invited every one for ‘Tulsi’ wedding at KK. Finally my query was solved by Shyam Uncle, he said, Tulsi’s husband is Vishnu Bhagwan! In other words she is ‘Sautan’ of Laxmi Devi.

1st planned photo clicked on our honeymoon, 11th Nov 1979, Nainital

Fri: 7^th Nov, one more wedding anniversary! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO SHOBHA & LAL ALSO.

35 years seemed long time, when we were young, but today, I feel passing of time is more or less based on your mental state than anything else, many trips with Bindiya, [Like Nainital, Mahableshwar, Phalgam, Vaishnav Devi, Ahemdabad, Baroda, Goa, Ooty etc] seem to have happened in very near past, 

Whereas some incidents which I can not mention or name here, appear to have happened yesterday, but the calendar says, this happened long back. Then something which took place yesterday, gives you feeling that this is replay of your previous ‘janam’s’ incident.. Time really plays and acts on your mind, so. play safe and stick to what your calendar says or what my weekly blog notes. hee..hee..hee...hee .

 Now, can you imagine Bindiya who is so sober, serious, no nonsense person today, enjoyed our Mumbai - Pune trips on Yezdi motor cycle, This was in December 1979. How I wish, we had digital cameras in that era, I would have accumulated Lakhs of pictures. This was before expressway era at Khandala Ghats,

One more picture from decades old pitara.

   

Quiz : This is one more rare picture. Three people I want you to identify are: 1: shyamlal bathija 2: Guli Bajaj 3: Lalchand bathija. For Rest of them, I will give the names only, they are no more with us.. 

They are: grandparents Lokram and kamla, their children, Bhagwan, Bansider, Rani and Raju. Durgha bhabi and Harilal Rohra.

Sat: My lips are sealed, somehow these words were typed out by my figures. This is influce of reading spy thrillers. To understand make sentances and a gist of knowledge will fall in your lap. The words are:

First / OK / HUF  / 19:20  / Yes = Z-1 / z+(abc*42)-1 / 31 v/s 36 / Blunder / 

 

by P G Dodeja